Unhealthy relationship: He wants me to talk to him. I just want closure and to know I'm doing the right thing.

He sounds like he could possibly kill you. And no, I am not kidding in the slightest. You need to relocate to an area he cannot find you. Or, at least change your locks, lock your windows, and install an alarm system. You may want to carry pepper spray with you from now on and possibly seek out a restraining order.